Be your own best friend
The following words are not my own; however they resonated so much with me, and align with my comment I made on my last blog post about shame, all around how we talk to ourselves... The below is from Misty Tripoli, who is the founder of the wonderful dance workout, that actively encourages individualism, energy and fun. I've been doing Body Groove for the last couple of months, and it's bringing so much joy to my life as well as doing great things physically for me. So thank you Misty for your very wise words, and thank you readers for listening.
"Close your eyes and picture your best friend. Someone you just love to be around and who makes you feel amazing.
Now, think about their physical appearance. Does your best friend have a few "flaws"...? Perhaps they're a bit overweight, or maybe have a few wrinkles, or something else that might be considered less than "perfect".
So, let me ask you...Does your best friend's appearance change the way you feel about them, or the way you treat them...?
Do you care less about them because their body isn't "perfect"...?
Of course not!!
You love being around your best friend and accept them for whatever “flaws” they have. You don't evaluate your friendship based on whether or not they have a perfect butt. And if that's the case... why would you hold yourself to a different standard?
Sadly, for many of us it’s easier to see the dignity of others... than it is our own.We reserve compassion and grace for everyone else, except ourselves.
It’s time to STOP!
Instead, start treating yourself the way you would treat your very best friend. Talk to yourself the way you would talk to them. Embrace your own unique, beautiful qualities like you would embrace theirs.
Become your own best friend."
*if you enjoy the themes of these musings and would like to learn more, or join in similar conversations, please head over to The Listening House.